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Sep 10Liked by CeeMcG

I work in the non profit sector and I know many people like Steve. I don’t know if it’s upbringing, personality, or government handouts creating a psychology of dependency (probably a combination of things) but it’s devastating to the dignity of these individuals.

When something inevitably goes wrong, such as things in life tend to do, they have no safety net (socially or financially) so they rely increasingly on the dwindling few who are kind enough to try to help them out, which leads to burnout for the helpers as they watch the Steves make the same mistakes over and over.

There are crisis situations (the single parent of five in a minimum wage job whose house burns down) and there are persistent situations (learned helplessness exacerbated by very understandable depression).

What might help the persistent situations most are micro communities where people in similar economic situations band together to share resources on a roughly level playing field. That way the Steves can give and not just take, as well as bear witness to certain habits of thinking and/or behavior in others that is to their own detriment.

Anyway, bless you for looking out for Steve. You’ve done so much more than most. It sounds like it’s definitely time for him to be on his way.

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If voting mattered, I'd be concerned. This type of government resembles a collective effort to destroy the working man while the thugs in government retain power. Most of the country is asleep in more ways than one.

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I don’t know anyone like Steve. I feel sorry for him. It must be a scary way to live! You’re a saint for doing these things for him. Many karma points headed your way. Beautiful writing.

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Oh, and i really enjoyed reading this. Sad and funny story

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Too many people are too lazy, or too stupid to learn.

He could have taken his car to a Ford dealer.

Either case, my siblings are like this. Hubbs and I are working on my dad's estate. We are learning reading and doing everything bc they refuse to pay a lawyer (well hubbs and I did consult a very good one with our own money, he was very helpful and encouraging) They are both dumb.

We are working diligently but also keeping meticulous records. My brother says "My financial advisor says we should just hand out all of the money". Well, perhaps we should do it without getting the law and the IRS knocking at our doors

My sister and I are both former RNs. She has no common sense and never received promotions and complained to me several times that she was passed over. I know why she did not. She is loud and dumb. she focuses on things that are not her job.

Anyway, the lazy stupids become very comfortable and dependent

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